and no, not that gay song. i've realized that basically we are all fireflies.
justin and i were sitting around watching fireflies the other night and i wondered, 'why do fireflies light up?' it's so pretty and amazing to us, but what is it like to them? so, i 'chacha'-ed it on my phone, and it said that fireflies light up to attract a mate.
it makes sense now that i think about it. the light is so pretty, and bugs like light. at least that's what we think. but i wonder what makes one firefly's light different from another? what makes a firefly attracted to that one certain other firefly?
that's how i invision finding mates as humans. we each have a different light--many different lights that we put on--and someone else either finds them attractive or not. our light could be our appearance.. it could be our personality. it could be certain traits that are only specific to you that someone notices and finds attractive. that light is special to you, and when someone finds that light attractive, they want to get to know you. when they find that more lights are attractive about you, they know you're the one.
when lights go out though, things get complicated. you can't see the real person underneath the darkness. the darkness could be jealousy, lust, stress, or feelings of inadequacy toward yourself. sometimes the person sees through the darkness and realizes the lights are more important. fireflies need the light to attract their mate, and when they don't have a light about them, they can't attract one. we all need lights to see into our potential mates, but when they are covered with darkness, it's impossible to get to know them. we all know you need a light to see through the darkness. which gets to my next point...
when i was watching Valentine's Day last night, they said that when you love someone, you of course love them for all the good things about them... but you have to love the bad things about them too. that's always been the hardest thing for me to realize. people don't change because you want them to change. and that doesn't mean they should change just because you want them to. if you love someone, you love them for who they are obviously--or you're supposed to. but if you're going to have a successful relationship, you need to love them for all of them, good and bad, no matter how hard it is. if you can't handle the bad along with the good, then you could never be with anyone.
this may not have made any sense to you, but i think the firefly analogy was pretty good on my part. kudos me. i rock.
